Tuesday, August 30, 2005
It is really incredible that so much love and joy can be gone in an instant. I don't believe she has disappeared but it sure feels that way at the moment. Although evidence is inconclusive, my intuition tells me that gifted people are more likely to suffer from depression, and much better at hiding the severity of their symptoms, than the general population.
I think the best way to remember her is to continue her work of giving gifted kids the support they need - she was planning an online school for them, including chat rooms and lots of other resources. I hope this project does not die with her and I will offer my assistance in any way I can. I will continue to create my own brand of support and keep showing up for gifted issues.
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Monday, August 29, 2005
Interesting that I'm now judging my perceptions in terms of all the reading I've been doing about giftedness and its characteristics. For example, many researchers have identified "hyperfocus", "task commitment", and "rage to master" in gifted people. Doesn't seem to be that way for me at all. It's more like, wait until I can't bear the internal pressure to get it done, then make a great effort and do it as fast as possible. That's why I lurve my CRM software that basically keeps beeping at me until I complete the tasks I've assigned myself. It's like an electronic superego.
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Sunday, August 28, 2005
So what to do? How can I communicate? Why do I feel so strongly that it is necessary to communicate this? I think it's because there was no peace for me until I found it. No peace, and no desire to do anything but find peace for myself. I tried to find it so many other ways, but until I got there it was impossible to put my gifts in action to help others. Perhaps everyone needs to reach their potential within before they can start giving to the outside. Is it possible for everyone to get where I am, or do people have maximums? Is this my maximum or is there more? More questions.
One thing I know is that once someone has felt this same drive, they will need me or someone like me to resonate and rail against as they walk their path. I looked and looked for my own foil and could not progress until I found it. No book or training program or religion or distraction could do what being with someone who has had these types of experiences has done.
So I come to the essential problem. How do I reach those who seek me without being able to articulate what I can offer them? What is required here is a new marketing strategy, offering and selling the benefits of development. Perhaps those can be clearly articulated? Another quest....
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Thursday, August 25, 2005
And yet not yay, because this means I'm going to have to figure this out by myself, and I was hoping to stand on someone's shoulders. Well, there's a huge contribution to humanity just begging to be made! How thrilling. Let's get started. Errr....
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Wednesday, August 24, 2005
Ever since I lifted up my head a few hours after birth to get a look at the world, I've been desperately trying to make sense of it. This has led to all kinds of inquiry, spiritual, social, intellectual, philosophical, and paeleoanthropological. Good stories encompass all of these disciplines, and many more. I don't know how to describe these things in words - English is my first and best language, and I've never met an experience I couldn't codify with it before. It's a fascinating challenge to try and write about something I literally have no words for.
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Monday, August 22, 2005
So my message for the day, dear friends, is that if you want to know if it's really possible to change your life, do that thing you hardly believe you can, and get what you want, just look around you. Chances are there's someone awesome right in front of you to copy until you find your own groove. Go Doris!
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Saturday, August 20, 2005
Just remembered I bought enough beer for me to have one whilst I'm figuring it out. Excuse me....
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Thursday, August 18, 2005
But I just had a session with my coach and we worked with such a great image - being surrounded by all the people whose lives I will touch with my work, feeling their energy and joy and support. I *love* this, it makes me feel like I can do anything! Coaching rules when the relationship is right.
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Monday, August 15, 2005
It's one of those days when all I want to do is hide under a pile of clean laundry and pretend I'm six again. I am afraid to do anything when I'm in this mood. So I called my buddy and she's there for me as always, I can't recommend the buddy strategy enough. Find someone who's going through the same thing and support each other through the bad days - and get yourself a great coach! Mine comes back from vacation tomorrow and I can't wait to talk to her again.
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Sunday, August 14, 2005
As a coach, I support people who are working for the best life they can concieve of. I'm there as they work through the hard stuff, the fear and self-doubt, and celebrate their learnings and success. They learn the skills they need to keep moving ahead on their own, but they always know I'm there holding the space for them, calling them into their magnificence.
It's terribly hard to hear about people who never got there, spent their whole life trying to be happy the best way they knew how. They use something outside themself to find a splinter of the joy that's their birthright, and it just takes them further away from it. I suppose I've lost a fantasy that everyone always find peace in the end, before they die.
But how do I know what peace is, for anyone else? Maybe they find their own way, that's just as good, I have no ability to judge. What works for each individual is unique, and that's the lesson I think I am supposed to learn. Joy is personal and needs supporting no matter what it looks like, even if I don't understand how it contributes to a person's growth and happiness. The universe has a far larger plan and reach than I will ever comprehend. All I can do is become strong in my own way and trust that my strength is what my clients need to follow their own path.
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Friday, August 12, 2005
No wait, I don't mean that! It's freeing up the decision-making part of my conciousness for important things, reading great books like Teaching as a Subversive activity on the elliptical trainer, for instance. Or wondering how I construct my own reality as a function of the language I speak. Hmmm. Time for a beer, methinks. I'm certainly not raising any conciousness through this post.
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Wednesday, August 10, 2005
For crying out loud!
"Jim Pitkow at Moreover threw out some big statistics about search-based news. He said there were 12,000 international news sources producing 200,000 articles a day. They exist in 125 countries in 36 languages and in 380 catagories. Bloggers and press are separated distinctly. Moreover doesn't consider bloggers to be journalists necessarily. He said the press writes the news and the bloggers write opinions about news."
So news is not an opinion?! I will *not* let this get me down, I will not let this get me down, I will not....where are those cookies?
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Tuesday, August 09, 2005
EQ with a vengeance
I’ve been thinking about EQ, or emotional intelligence, as people have been recommending that I do so! In Chapter 3 of Daniel Goleman’s popular book on the subject, Emotional Intelligence , he gives some examples of high IQ people who are not achieving the heights they were destined for. He says that “Academic intelligence has little to do with emotional life” and goes on to say “…people with with high IQs can be stunningly poor pilots of their private lives.” He believes that emotional intelligence and IQ are independent of each other. Goleman does a good job of showing that success comes to those who have an awareness of social rules and apply them in the dominant mode of their society. I think his observation that people with high IQ may have low emotional intelligence and therefore lower success is flawed. For starters, he defines success largely in social terms, a narrow band of achievement that gifted people may or may not choose to pursue.
I suggest that because the person with high IQ is actually hyper-aware their world, they are not receiving the same information about any given situation as someone within the normal range. Because of this, they will react differently. They are able to discern more complexity in any situation, and social situations are the most complex ...more
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Monday, August 08, 2005
All of these things can get me back in touch with my mission again and give me the push I need to get moving. My business is not just a business, it's a calling, a purpose for being here that never goes away even when I ignore it in favour of a popsicle in the hammock under the shade of the lilac tree. That's how I know I'm doing the right thing.
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Friday, August 05, 2005
But I am challenging it, and asking for Pumpernickel all over the place, because that is what I am asking my clients to do every day. I gotta walk the talk! It's very surprising what can happen when I do that, I certainly expand my world whenever I do it, no matter what the outcome.
Got some great tips from a seminar on how to get leads and sales, but I must have the Pumpernickel attitude to follow through and do something about it. So I'm emailing the scary people and printing the sales letter and just doing it. AAAAhhhhh!
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Thursday, August 04, 2005
I had two great conversations today with gifted people and thoroughly enjoyed being able to ask for clarification and laugh over crazy things that just don't seem funny to anyone else. I asked about the communication thing, and for those following that thread of neurosis, it's been confirmed that it is in fact paranoia. Whew! But good to know, and will help on coaching calls, no doubt.
One thing that came up in both conversations was the frustration of seeing things that are invisible to others. The anger that comes from so rarely being able to be oneself around others. The resentment caused by understanding how things could be and keenly perceiving how far away from it we are.
Additionally, I'm reading about transference and naturally starting to wonder how much of me is looking for an arena to work out my own stuff about being a gifted adult in a non-gifted world. Need to spend time and thought on this - hopefully the book I'm reading on it will have some pointers - "Between Therapist and Client" by Michael Kahn.
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Tuesday, August 02, 2005
Pumpernickel is a bit trickier to handle, and it's strong and meaty - an acquired taste, and you can only pair it with toppings that will rise to the challenge. Not many people would choose it, given the option. For those who do, it gives great rewards in complex tastes, textures, and aromas. You don't need as much to satisfy your hunger.
Everyone needs bread. But if the gifted don't get pumpernickel, they know they are missing out on something that a limitless supply of Wonderbread will never be able to offer.
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